Zelda’s Story

So – what do I actually do to help people through divorce?  

Well, the best way I can think of to explain it is to tell you about Zelda.  

The Cost of Getting Divorced – a Comparison

And the primary cause for this horrendous cost is how you and your ex (while acknowledging this is one of the times when it doesn’t take two to tango up the bill) handle the inevitable conflicts. 

But, as you know by now, there is another way.

Collaborative Divorce Might Be a Bad Idea If You…

It’s akin to tandem tightrope walking – unless you’re both on board with the journey, you’re going to slip and fall.  

Nobody wins then.  

Inter-disciplinary Collaborative Divorce – 14 Syllables, 4 Professionals, 1 Couple

Talking about money is a fraught topic at the best of times – add the emotional heat of a divorce, fear and uncertainty and you have a combustible situation.  

But, What is Collaborative Divorce?

You have an image in your mind of what ‘divorce’ looks like.

Lawyers. A courtroom. Yelling. Accusations. Anger. Fear. Recriminations and accusations.

Now take that image and put it to the side.

Rafting the River of Divorce – Part 2

You enter the rapids and immediately feel uncomfortable as the pace picks up. You’re quickly bouncing from side to side, and there’s the occasional rock scrape on the bottom of the kayak.  

Rafting the River of Divorce – Part 1

You can’t help but notice, though, the sheer volume of other rafts mindlessly floating along into the frightening rapids of the right fork.

Divorce is Hell (But It Doesn’t Have To Be)

It is possible to maturely work through the process of dissolving your relationship, agreeing how to continue to parent separately and distribute your accumulated wealth.  

“Like Walking Through Mud”

Either way, I’m more than happy to have the conversation. Going through a divorce is brutally difficult already – if there’s anyway we can help them get started off on the right foot, then that’s why we’re here.

How We’ve Been Helping – Feb 2022

One of my favourite parts of this job is when somebody we’ve working with for a while, to help them plan for their retirement, gets to walk out of work for the last time. It’s such a big, meaningful and – hopefully – positive transitions, it’s a really nice thing to be part of.